Last year I discovered this fabulous term called simmering in “Love Worth Making” by Stephen Snyder, M.D. It is used to describe intentional romantic/erotic play to keep the love alive in a long term relationship.
Snyder comments that one of the tragedies that occurs when a couple have been together for a while is that romantic/erotic interactions only occur for the sole purpose of leading to sex. Simmering is about playing for play’s sake, with no end game in mind.
For busy people, this can be a HUGE game-changer. Any time–whether it’s over coffee in the morning, saying goodbye on the way to work, waiting in line, having lunch, cooking dinner, putting the kids to bed–is an opportunity to simmer. Kiss, caress, give a quick (or extended) hug, pet (but not too heavy), flirt, tease. Basically… forget about everything else for a few moments and act like teenagers in love (which looks like 🤢🤮 to anyone else, but to them it’s beautiful 😘).
Try it, I dare you. It certainly makes for stimulating moments every day. 😘
If you get the opportunity, read Love Worth Making. It’s a very well-written book with some very insightful ideas and advice for those seeking to make love last. ❤️
And now, here’s a little musing about simmering… 🥰
in the kitchen
while I’m making dinner for us all
you come up beside me
drag your nails across my back
you smile and walk away
in the lounge room
we’re all watching tv
I put my hand on your leg
slide my up your thigh
subtle touch just next to
where you want me to touch you
and start to rise
I wink and withdraw
I love how we are
finding little opportunities
to keep the romance
♥️ Thanks for visiting my little sanctuary ♥️
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